In their book Relationships, Drs Les and Leslie Parrott shared this secret: “If you try to find intimacy with another person before achieving a sense of intimacy on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.” To build healthy relationships, you first need to learn to become whole or complete – to have a sense of self-worth, self-identity and healthy self concept. It is the old saying – “be the right person first rather than trying to look for the right person.